What Others Think About You

“Why do people accept the opinions of others about themselves as truth? Who is going to live the rest of your life anyway? Doug Firebaugh

What is the value of someone’s opinion of your ability and personal worth? When we were teenagers, most of us wanted the acceptance of our peers. As a result, it mattered a great deal and we wanted to conform (non-conformists conform to the mores of other non-conformists!).

By the time we were in our late 30s and 40s we said we didn’t much care what “they” thought. But by then our lives were molded as we tried to live up to the (sometimes) impossible standards.

Now I find that what was really important at age 20 does not register on any scale of importance I now embrace. The time I spent thinking about what other people thought about me was, for me, truly a waste of time. On top of that, I’ve learned they really didn’t spend too much time thinking about me anyway.

Today when someone has an unsolicited opinion of me that I find objectionable, I simply think, “That person is rather presumptuous, isn’t he/she?”

The life you are living is yours. So find purpose and live it to the fullest. What others think about you will not pay your bills or produce wonderful relationships – nor does what they think really matter!

Just remember the value of someone’s unsolicited opinion of you is worth every penny you paid for it!

If you’re interested, here’s my advice:

1.      Find objective truth (as opposed to subjective truth) in which to adhere and serve as an anchor for your life and life’s work.

2.      Be yourself! Along your journey in self development, set goals that accomplish things you believe important.

3.      As stated in body of this article, find purpose in your life and live it. You are here for a reason. Why are you here?

4.      Regardless of the nay-sayers, embrace and apply principles that build your personal character and help define the person you want to be.

5.      Make time for meditation and reflection. In our fast pace society, this time is needed so we can reconnect with our values and moral compass.

6.      Truly realize that success is not accomplished in a vacuum. We need other people in our lives. With that recognition, we can learn to give of ourselves to others who are less fortunate that we are.

7.      When you fail to live up to your ideal standards, and you will on occasion, recognize the failure, make adjustments, and then simply move forward. Here’s how one first century thinker dealt with the issue of moving forward in his personal life: “But this one thing I do–forgetting everything which is past and stretching forward to what lies in front of me, with my eyes fixed on the goal I push on to secure the prize . . .”

Now, go make it a great day by focusing on the “prize” – forward looking – regardless of what “others” have to say about it.


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